from our heart to your heart

Parent to Parent - heart to heart

To new parents being just there on their new journey

The thing about having a baby is that there after you have it.

Every one of us knew this when we decided to become parents. Then why are we so taken aback when the magnitude of our commitment begins to sink in?

All the serene and heavenly images of motherhood depicted in paintings and advertisements shatter. Our infant is not beatific (making blessed / making happy) and rarely still. He has three expressions: starting to cry, crying, and just finished crying. We have only three expressions: blank stare, terror, and blank stare. We’re not even sure we will survive the first few months of basic training.

Just when we think we’re doomed, things improve. We can detect mood changes before they occur; we learn how to meet our little one’s needs; we detect a pattern to his behaviour. Holding him tight, we decide to keep him, and the minute we do that, something changes. We begin to worry about his teen years!

Dr Atul n Dr Arti

Love you all

Genius Babies Joyous Parents

Being Response-Able Parent

Hi their

I hope you are all doing great and prospering in life with your genius babies around you. Never ever loose your sight over the genius in your very vicinity. They are the genuine masterpieces in your house.

Today would like to share about our so called responsibility of being a parent.

To be very, very RESPONSE-ABLE is the greatest need of being a PARENT. Parenting becomes as effortless as any other activity, when carried out in great awareness.

The greatest difference between being "a mere biological parent" and a "Response-able parent " is that in being a response-able parent one starts enjoying life without getting bogged down by the responsibilities of child rearing, as in case of merely being a biological parent.

The varied transformation, through which a new life comes in to this world, from the moment of conception, is the greatest opportunity for a parent, to be able to live in the present, and witness their life change from moment to moment.

It's also a time for a parent to sit back, relax and be a witness to this beautiful creation of nature. Just being sensitive to one's own child will do this trick.

First few years of the child's life is the right time to give all possible freedom and love to the growing child. I say, as much as possible because there is no upper limit to giving love.

A child should be able to freely explore the world. At the same time he/she should be able to give and receive love. He doesn't have to be obedient. When forced to obey, child (who believes in himself strongly) tends to be a rebellion and thus disobeys. As against when allowed to explore the world they imbibe discipline antomatically.

They learn to use the freedom responsibly. Contrary to popular belief, love does not spoil children. Love means even when the parent says a categorical 'no' the baby listens.The no should come out of love and not out of intention to repress by force.

Being response-able parent does not mean stuffing parental ideology down the child's throat. A child who is exposed to many idealogies, his/her parental ideology being one amongst them is a much better state.

All this needs to be done up to a particular time in the child's life. From then on he/she will be response-able as well. It is only then that the parent can be assured of having been RESPONSE-ABLE.

Dr Atul n Dr Arti

Genius Babies Joyous Parents

Dare to Dream!!!!

Your child is a big time dreamer. In his/her world anything to anywhere is possible in the shortest, the quickest and the most harmonious way.

A child possibly is aware of this. Do you realize this that a tiny being manages to communicate in a loudest possible way everything that he/she needs. Yes? Do you also realize this that they all are equipped with nothing that we conventionally believe to be the channels of communication?

Have you ever thought of this that once you have a child, you had it for a long time?

And what do we do with this dreamer and his dreams?
We give the same treatment to their dreams, that we received to our dreams. We tell them that to dream means your feet are not on the ground.That to dream is to live away from the reality. It is a pass time activity. Most of the dreams never come true.

So the underlying message we pass on to them is drop your dreams as fast as possible, bury them deep down and start living in to the so called reality. Start living like the conventional. start living in the flock and follow the flock.
If you have seen or read Jonathan Livingston seagull, then you all must have been touched by Jonathan's heroic attempts to live a bigger life for himself and subsequently for his community. A life that will help him to stretch his abilities. You would have found the the flock and the elderly in the flock to be unjust to Jonathan.
But have you realized that it is the story of all amongst us, people from the past and present who have declared their individuality. These people dared to declare their wildest possible dreams to the world and did whatever it takes to achieve them.
These are the people who are the genius people that we know. These are the people because of whom we are witnessing change in our lives. Life as a whole is evolving because of these people.
These people are going to be there always and will keep contributing to the world and the humanity as such ,whether others in the vicinity are with them or not.
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But let me share something with you which is for you and for your children.
What ever is the contribution and the benefit that the humanity receives their is hardly any gain for all of us because of what these people did with their lives.
If at all you have to have that experiential benefit for your own life then it needs to be your very own experience.
Which means you have to follow the footprints of these people in principle,live a fuller life like them and then for sure you benefit from that experience.
To make it simple we have come across many parents who say and declare that they themselves have left their dreams long back and have buried them deep down.At the same time would want their children to follow and achieve their dreams.


If you really want your child to be big time dreamer and follower and achiever of his dreams he needs to see you doing the same.

Yes with the passage of years it is likely that your dreams seem lost to you or unachievable .The fact is it is not true. Yes you may need to dig them. You may need to go deep within in search of them. You may need to spare your time to do the same.One thing is sure, you have your dreams and dreams are something worthy cause to live for.You can find a purpose for your life through your dreams.

So dare to dream and help your children to believe in their dreams and help them achieve those.

Encounter with Human Baby Intelligence

Science quote’s that Einstein has used 4% of his total brain capacity.

How come science knows this?

He is one of the most brainy persons world has ever known.

World over Sachin is known as the classic cricketing intelligence.

How come Sachin is Intelligent?

Vinod and Sachin Both started of as Cricketing Geniuses. But Vinod did not thrive as Sachin did. What was the reason? Can it be traced?

There are so many (knowledge wise superb) classical vocal learners but Lata has something which others don’t have. Isn’t it?

If Isaac Newton’s I.Q is 70 what connection it has with whether he will invent the law of gravity based on his question related with Falling apple?

And what will happen if My Rahul’s I.Q is 140 and is called stupid for asking similar Questions?

As a child I had a talent which I have never used later in my life? What should I conclude? Am I genius or am I not?

What do I do for my child’s education,when I know that Einstein was a school drop out & Bhimsen Joshi ran away from his house at a very early age to learn Classical music? Also that Right brothers were bunking school and experimenting with their aero plain models in the basement?

How do I know about my child’s potential?

What he /she are going to do as grown up individual?

Probably Susmita’s and Aishwarya’s parents would have never dreamt the kind of life they are living?

What is the intelligence of my baby?

What is the best time to cater to the needs of my child?

What is my role exactly in my baby’s life?

How do I understand (giant made up of five elements earth, water, fire, wind, space) in the form of my baby?

How to enrich my baby’s life so that it will be possible for my baby to use his/her full potential?

Will it be possible that my baby is using 100% of his/her potential? What can be the best line of action? What would be the basis of that?

What will that baby look like & can I visualize it? Do I need to & want to?

If Einstein has used 4% of his potential & I am using 0.5 % of my potential, what will my baby do with 100% usage of his/her potential?

Do I trust when I plant a rose flower seed that it will come up with a rose flower at fruition?

Then will I be able to trust my baby when I plant the seed and wait for its fruition?

Do I need to do something actively or just wait by the side?

Can I learn from my child?

How is it that the mother sparrow teaches the baby sparrow to fly? Have you thought over it?

How do I understand my baby’s various responses? If I earn 1 million rupees a month will that be a sure sign that I know my baby’s needs?

Will it be possible to see a giant in the tiny body weighing 8 pounds? What will that giant mean?

When do I ask these questions about parenting? And who is there to answer them?

What is the way to play the long innings in the life of a parent?

Where do I start? Where do I relax? When do I pace up my innings? When do I retire?

Here comes a chance of an encounter with a giant in the form of a human baby.

Human baby is the highest possible creation evolution has known up till now.

And parents are doing a great uphill task. It’s highly challenging task and equally rewarding too.

Need of the time is evolution in the parental consciousness and efforts are needed in that direction.

Most of the parents are well read and aware about the wordy jargon & still many are burning inside with a feeling of frustration & a vague feeling of deep dissatisfaction.

“Genius babies Joyous Parents” for various levels of parenting, is an endeavor to offer parents a supportive and sharing atmosphere where they feel the strength within themselves to cater to the needs of growing baby in the vicinity. They also get lots of practical hints which help as trigger to their Intelligence.

It is not preaching parenting but experiencing the baby’s presence in all together new perspective.

The Joyous parent within oneself is tapped to take care of the all time unknown or should I say unpredictable response of the baby.

Parenting can be experienced as far simpler (effortless) & far happier an experience.

One can tremendously enjoy the presence of the baby unleashing her potential in multiple directions such as the ones mentioned herein.

Being childlike (not childish) playful, honest & sincere giving one’s 100% is the key to experience a joyful n effortless journey. Playfully listening to your baby will reveal the treasure that is your baby.

What one needs is to discover the treasure in their baby, the immense possibilities with which they are born.

Let’s talk about the possible channels through which human baby can unleash her Intelligence.

All though baby is a holistic individual, for the sake of understanding we will consider Expression of Intelligence under not one, two or five but twelve Headings.

We will understand straight away that a little focused attention of a parent in these areas will mean grooming of complete expression of human intelligence.

Let us take a look……………

Linguistic Intelligence

It includes all that is concerned with use of Languages. E.g. Reading, writing, Speaking, & understanding as an important part of worldly communication.

Mathematical/logical/technical Intelligence

It includes a major portion of life day in and day out. Extent of mathematical operations in day to day life surpasses all and hence a strong possibility of developing sharp responses due to left sided superior functioning of Brain.

Intuitive Intelligence

This intelligence comes under the domain of right side of the brain. It not only serves to functioning of baby in a balanced way but allows her to use and trust her intuitive faculty. Intuitive faculty is out of the reach of reasoning & beyond the perception range of the five senses. But offers easiest possible solutions to most challenging situations of life.

Musical Intelligence

Talented musical expression is possible in 100’s of channels. Creation of quality music is an effortless and easiest possibility with babies. It also is a great healer and nourishment.

Pictorial intelligence

It is an important skill that helps in discrimination and spotless identification of pictures of various objects out their in the world. This perception is with respect to two dimensions.

Spatial intelligence

This intelligence helps baby to have the feel of objects living & dead in three dimensions.

Perception of depth is a function of this intelligence. Its baby’s way to get connected with the space in general.

Body or kinesthetic intelligence

It involves exercising and catering to the exclusive use of body’s intelligence, so also identifying it’s very deep connections with brain development & synchronization of the two.

Artistic Intelligence

Use of 10 fingers in a skillful way is the ability of human beings. This is used in most of the Artistic expressions. Examples: Painting, playing musical instruments, pottery etc.

Creative intelligence

Bringing out the original response to a challenge and coming out with altogether unique response to it is a creative expression

Naturalistic intelligence

Love for and feeling of attunement with nature resulting in imbibing all the qualities of nature is a naturalistic domain.

Interpersonal/ emotional intelligence

After coming to fruition the natural thing to happen would be the expression of the talent and letting it spread around. Without this the process would be incomplete. Along with the need to share comes the consequential happening i.e. interpersonal exchange, a very healthy platform for growth.

Intrapersonal/ spiritual intelligence

This deals with all that happens at the experiential level of babies, where use of five senses & perception through them is involved. This kind of memory of a person is a long term memory.

Take a look at all these intelligences and feel their expression through your baby.

Let your baby do anything in life, all of the above intelligences are a must if it has to be a real fulfilling experience offered by life.

Can you tell me a father or mother proclaiming that they can do without any of the above intelligence for their baby?

On the other hand all hands will go up if I say your baby is operating with all of these intelligences but is not going to be a doctor, or engineer or take any profession for that matter.

That means we are clear with what should be the value systems with which the baby lives.

The only thing is we don’t confuse the issues down the line.

Baby’s best chance to get exposure in all these areas is during the time when baby is bursting out with abundant energy, during her early years. Up to 7-8 yrs.

Without being ambitious babies can achieve incredible heights in all of these areas and subsequently bring the quality of all of these areas to anything that they do in their life.

This in turn will fetch them most important result of their doings.

That result is contentment and happiness.

Dr Atul n Dr Arti

“Genius Babies Joyous Parents”

Dratul.harmony4u@gmail.com

Drarti.harmony4u@gmail.com

www.babycentric.in

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Happy Days Are Here Again

Happy Days Are Here Again

……………… Refreshing Days Are Here Again

Hallo dear

Love you all !

One question for you all dear parents

Are you really feeling the presence of your baby/child with the great zeal and the best tempo on every single day, day in and day out?
Or has the tempo faded down!
If it has, then remember you are not the only one out over here.
We are not sharing this to comfort you but rather to shake you up. When there are many parents like you, it is even more difficult see the reality as it is. The reality gets clouded by what we see and hear mostly around us.
We can be complacent when most of the parents around us are also sharing there misery to us.
We may finally conclude that this is the way it is and that all are supposed to be living within this compromised state.

We say even if one parent and one child on this earth are experiencing what most of us only dream of, then we must never remain complacent until we also live our dreams.
For most of us the reality that we are living in, is far away from what our dreams are.
We habitually live in the compromised state for a long time. We are doing the same things again and again and attracting same results again and again.
For us to see ourselves in different reality, we have to get out of our patterned thinking and do something new to get new set of results.

That is how we add creativity to our parenting role. Creativity aims at bringing new results . They can not come out of our old patterns or something that we already think and believe we know.

Thus mind which is the accumulation of the known in the past is of no use to us in being creative parent.

Our children are creative all the time in their life. They are a combination of an all together new individual , meeting with all together new life situation, resulting in to all together new happenings.

All of us adults like this newness in a child in our vicinity.

You bet your child likes the newness in you as well . A new you responding differently to a new life situation.

I mean the creative you.

The moment this new you emerges out of the you from the one you are already accostomed to, your job is done.

You again start experience those happy days, those refreshing days which you once experienced : you remember ; when you were small children ?

Give yourself that opportunity.

Good Luck

Get going. Do something differently,.... Today. Right Now.

Dr Atul and Dr Arti

The Program Developers

"Genius Babies Joyous Parents"

Want to see a particular change: Intend it

I observed that Atulya prefers to be carried than walking on his own. I know that it is good for him to walk. His ability to walk and balance himself and he being sure footed, will grow only by he walking more and more on his own.
But every time ( it actually happens only few times) out there and he raises his arms and tells you that you should carry him.
What to do? If you deny, it doesn't work.
The point is children learn anything very quickly .So it doesn't take long for them to realise this that you are carrying him more often in the initial phase and it is far more quicker and easier way of commuting and learning in terms of providing variety to them happens anyway.So they adopt.
But being quick lerners they can also shift from their previous learning to a new learning and a new experience followed by new experiment and new inputs to the senses.
So you start by intention: My child is a steay walker. He loves to walk and explore. He is strong and healthy. He likes to be self reliant.He uses up hiss energy untill he dropps...............

Then........
You prepare your child. Express your intention that you want him to walk. He needs to understand the benifits of it. (why you want him to walk) and that is how most of the other people do. That is the way to commute for all of us.
Then you convey it to him that he is a great walker. Put it in positive and present tense. Say he is strong and healthy.
May be you will need to repeat this on couple of more occasions.
Finally when you want to put it to practice and this is most vital you see to it that he enjoys this time of walks the most. It should be his cherished experience that he would want to repeat. He will go at his pace, in his direction, doing what he may like on the way .He will pick up what he may wish, will babble what he may want and will linger on as much time as he wants on a particular spot. he will observe and watch people, their faces and what they are carrying, wearing, selling, their expressions. You can not hurriedly wanting him to finish his walking "EXERCISE".
His exercise by the by will happen.
He will grow physically superb by the by.
And he would have walked far beyond what you could have ever expected.
He would have learnt about ample of things.
Your mission is accomplished effortlessly and intelligently.

A parenting coach:

One significant event happens in our life at some point of time. We become Parents ………we have children

If I ask parents of young ones as to what that one happiest moment would be out of their past experiences, then most of them say birth of their baby.

But as we move along the general feeling that most of them talk about they being parents is how tough they find themselves to be in the role with various demands of that role and how incompetent they feel to handle the challenge.

To my understanding the main reason for this unending series of failure as parents is that, we lack the necessary preparation. Our education system does not prepare us for life and the responsibilities that we are expected to take up when we are thrown in to the responsibility.

The only qualification that we feel as necessary for us to be a parent is to get married. Getting married does not really qualify us to be a parent. Where as acquiring the skill to be able to know what it takes to be a parent would certainly be.
What it means to be in the vicinity of a baby so that we as parents are contribution to his growth? Part of that question is what do we mean by growth?

What is the real potential with which a baby comes in to this existence?
What can I expect as results that we all can witness as a consequence of creating a growth promoting environment in the vicinity of a baby?
How do I shift myself from being illiterate parent to literate parent?
Do I have Parenting Intelligence?
The sad part is most of us already are having a perspective about parenting. We hold this perspective majorly through our own experiences as children and in what way our parents have been to us and partly through the kind of parents that surround us. We learn through their approach towards children.

So we all are moving ahead with a bracketed/limited view and thus there are heavy restrictions to our thinking (freely) about our responsibility. A child’s approach to look at the world of opportunities rarely hits us. We carry on getting disguised by the small size of the Genius in the form of our baby.
We are often found to be doing no justice to this phenomenal responsibility handed over to us by the existence.

Because we are not expected to think but to follow the routine majority of us follow the universally accepted and set rules about parenting. It results in to hodge-potch approach to parenting. The results are saddening. A baby who is born genius lives like an ordinary human being, a part of the herd.
Most of us are not even aware of the fact that it is inadequacy of parents that begins the whole process of a child living a limited life.
Few amongst us live fuller, rich, abundant, happy and peaceful life. So few of us who are born potentially somebody of the calibre of Dyaneshwer live like Dyaneshwar.

So dear parents my message to you is be a parent only to give your heart and sole to this important important important role.

Learn every thing that you can to understand your child as an infinite infinite infinite potential and that needs to actualise.

And finally apply it to your life, the life of your children and to your family

You will be thus truly able to build a creator of creations out of your child and this would be an important qualification that would be parent needs to possess.

One of the most crucial thing that can happen to you and your family is you will emerge out very strong and balanced and abundantly rich families.

So finally ……

Knowledge and understanding that will emerge out of that knowledge about your role as a parent should be your top priority.
The results are life transforming, truly amazing.
But it’s a hard work that you will need to do just for a couple of years.
And then just sit back and relax and witness the giant leaping out of the tiny body of your baby.
Believe me you will have to stretch your imagination far beyond what you think your child is capable of.
And by the by you have a second chance to relive your own life to the full potential with the help of your child.

I recommend you to ask the following questions to yourself and sincerely put down on a piece of paper the answers to them.
Your journey is about to start with your answers to these questions.
You will gain greater clarity as to what your objectives, goals, and obstacles with respect to your parental role are.

1. My Dreams and Goals. . . what is your big picture, the long term of what you want for your life, your family or what you want to do with your time. What specifically do you want to accomplish in the next 6-12 months
2. What's holding me back? ..What are the brick walls or obstacles that are holding you back or slowing you down from being as successful or as effective as you know you can be.
3. How would a parenting coach help?...If you had a coach, what difference would it make?
4. Why do I need to do this now?...This is not an endeavour for procrastinators. So, what gives you the sense of urgency that now is the time to do this?
Whether you want your children as your copies or do you want a life for them which will be 1000 times bigger than the one you lived.
One way or another, a decision needs to be made at this juncture.

We will coach you further if you allow us to trespass your territories.

Remember that coaching is based on your ability to make and keep commitments.

With lots of love
Dr Atul Abhyankar
Founder Director of Harmony Holistic Hut
Designer of parental workshop Genius Babies Joyous Parents
dratul.harmony4u@gmail.com

+91 98228 49916

Your yesterday need not determine what kind of parents you are TODAY!

Experience is not what happens to you. it is what you do with what happens to you.
ALDOUS HUXLEY
"Transcenders" are individuals who flourish despite traumatic childhoods.
What makes these children different from those who are crushed by their upbringing?
It's what they do with what's happened to them that makes them so successful.
When life gives them raw mangoes they make tasty pickle out of it.
we all have ability to trancend the events in out lives. we do this when we trust our own perceptions about our childhood.
By acknowledging what frightened and wounded us as children, we are more prepared to protect our children from the adult conditioned abuse.they having to adjust to situations as "children often must" like nature , children have a healing influence on our lives.
An adult who spends even fifteen minutes and gives undivided attention to the minutest details of their child finds himself back to his own childhood.
many of us go through periods when we only remember the anguish and turmoil of our childhood. Although this is a necessary part of purging our pain, it is essential for us to remember that it is not the permanent place of residence.
With children out in to the wild we can follow our children. we can share their intence facination with the smallest details of a flower; the spots on the lady-bugs back; the strands of a spider's web.
with them, we can be drawn back to the magic of our own childhood. We can "fall down the rabbit hole" and discover the treasures of childhood that have been buried deep in our hearts.


Dr Atul n Dr Arti
'Genius Babies Joyous Parents'

Effortless Parenting

Effortless Parenting

"Effortless Parenting" must be sounding a contradiction in terms to you.You may ask how? Because it does not tally your experience. Neither you find being 'effortless' to be a common experience of parents around you. Amongest the hair raising experiences that parents are passing through, certainly "effortless parenting" would be something that would attract your attention.Isn't it?

Let us look in to the struggle you are experiencing. foe example let us see 'My child doesn't listen' as the most common struggle. Do you see that for every situation that you are struggling with your child also has to struggle?and then the effort begins.....

Now if your child doesn't need to struggle against you why would you need to struggle against him?

You also need to get this point that your child and you share a relation of perfect reciprocity. That means your feelings which get converted to your thoughts which in turn are vocalised, find a perfect reflecting mirror image in your child. Your child mirrors your vocalised thoughts in to its equivalent feelings. He struggles too.

The tussle is the effort.

Get rid of tussel. Try to flow. You will start feeling effortlessness.

This applies to making the child sleep, making the child eat, making the child wear or remove clothes and all that.

And then when you find yourself to be more trusting, more at ease, more relaxed you will find your child gets more often than not your point, you want to communicate.

By the way this is not being patient, but being accepting and quickly being mobile with the given situation.

If you are following a strict regime for your life your child will struggle. Find out somebody who in principle follow what I am saying with your child. Your child can understand you also and enjoy his freedom also.